A couple argues over whether sleeping over 5 nights a week constitutes living together.
My girlfriend Diana owns her condo. I'm there basically every night — I keep clothes there, cook dinner half the week, and do chores. She recently asked me to pay $800/month in rent. I was shocked. I don't have a key, I still maintain my own apartment (which I'm barely at), and she says if I want to live there I need to commit financially. I offered $300 for utilities and groceries. She said that's insulting and if I can't pay real rent I need to limit my visits to 3 nights a week. I feel like she's commodifying our relationship. She says she's not running a free hotel. I told her I'd start staying at my own place more. Now she's hurt that I "don't want to be there." I genuinely can't win.
I own this condo. My mortgage, my property taxes, my HOA fees, my utilities. Sam pays zero of that. Sam also broke my coffee maker and replaced it with a cheaper one, used my parking spot to store stuff, and has a key to my home. When I asked for $800 a month, which is less than half of what a room in this city goes for, Sam acted like I was mugging him. We have been together two years. Either we are building a life together or Sam is getting free housing. It cannot be both.
⚖️ The Verdict Is In
😤 Side A is right, but handled it badly
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Official NACOL Ruling
In the matter of Sam v. Diana, this court finds that the jury's 37 percent to 30 percent split verdict (with a decisive 33 percent abstention rate suggesting widespread ambivalence about cohabitation economics) proves that both parties are correct in spirit if catastrophic in execution: Diana's property, her mortgage, ergo her right to demand contribution; Sam's legitimate shock at a surprise $800 invoice after two years of quasi-domestic partnership. This court orders both parties to adult their way through an actual conversation involving numbers, expectations, and perhaps a therapist, as the institution of "rent" requires mutual understanding rather than unilateral declarations. Case closed.
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