I Turned Down My In-Laws Offer to Help With Our Down Payment
A wife refused a $40,000 down payment gift from her husband\'s parents without discussing it with her husband first.
My parents offered us $40,000 toward a house down payment, no strings attached. Diane said no without discussing it with me first. When I asked why, she said she did not want to feel indebted to my parents. My parents are generous people who give without expecting anything back. We have been saving for four years and are still $30,000 short. Diane turned down free money that would have gotten us into a house this year because of a feeling. I am not allowed to override her on this but I want the internet to know I think this is the wrong call.
I have met Marcus\'s parents twelve times. Every single time his mother has reminded me that she bought Marcus\'s first car, paid for his study abroad, and co-signed his first apartment. She does not give without keeping score. $40,000 is not a gift from them, it is a down payment on leverage. Marcus does not see it because it is his mother. I see it because it is not mine. I would rather save for one more year and own our home without owing anyone anything. Marcus thinks I am irrational. I think I am protecting us.
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🤷 You're both right (it's complicated)
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Official NACOL Ruling
In the matter of Marcus v. Diane (Wife), this court finds that with a jury split of 0% for plaintiff and 0% for defendant out of one solitary juror, the only person who achieved unanimous consensus was the juror themselves, who sagely determined that arguing about parental money is universally exhausting and therefore both parties are correct in their mutual wrongness. The court orders Marcus and Diane to either take the forty thousand dollars and schedule couples therapy now as a preventative measure, or continue their noble four-year savings quest while enjoying the peaceful silence of unresolved resentment. Case closed.
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