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I Won't Attend My Sister's $4,500 Destination Wedding
A family rift over whether attending a destination wedding is mandatory when money is tight.
👤 Riley
My sister Megan is getting married in Greece. The trip would cost my partner and me about $4,500 (flights, hotel, 4 nights). We're saving for a house and I told Megan I can't swing it. She offered to help with $500. I said I appreciate it but that still leaves $4,000. She said I have a year to save and "it's her one special day." I offered to throw her an amazing local engagement party and send a generous gift. She cried and said I'm "choosing money over family." My parents are siding with her, saying I'll regret not being there. I love my sister but I'm not going into debt for a wedding abroad. She chose the destination knowing not everyone could afford it. She says I'm the only close family member not coming and it'll "ruin her photos."
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👤 Megan
Riley is my only sibling. I have been planning this wedding for two years. I gave everyone 14 months notice so they could save up. I offered to cover Riley's hotel, which would have dropped the cost to under $2,500 for two people. Riley said no. Riley spent $3,200 on a ski trip with friends four months before my wedding. I am not asking Riley to go into debt. I am asking Riley to prioritize my wedding the same way Riley prioritizes vacations with friends. I will remember this forever.
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📊 Current Standings — 33 votes
🔵 Side A is right
12% (4)
🔴 Side B is right
12% (4)
💀 You're both wrong
18% (6)
🤷 You're both right
21% (7)
😤 A right, bad handling
15% (5)
😤 B right, bad handling
21% (7)
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